Lately the subject of change seems to have come up everywhere – how it happens, why it happens, its impact. As solopreneurs, we must discover ways to cope with it – both in life and in our work. For me it boils down to what I have control over.
How much control over change do you really have?
Take out some paper and a pen right now and list every change that has taken place for you in this past year. You can decide whether you want to include changes in your community, country, world, planet. In my exercise, I included only my life and my work. How many do you have on your list? (I have 36 in mine). Now look at them and decided what per cent you had no control over. (39 were not created by me.) Now consider the following:
- Were they creeping changes or were they immediate disruptive changes?
- Were they changes in work methods or routines?
- Were they life or business-related?
- What level of input/decision did you have?
- What was your reaction to each?
Now let’s look at those immediate disruptive ones and think about our reactions. We know that all humans try to avoid change. It has to do with how our brains work. Habitual, repetitive circumstances require less attention and take less mental energy. When they get disrupted, our primitive brain kicks in with discomfort. This reaction occurs when we:
- try to kick a habit;
- search for an original idea;
- try to shift business focus;
- try to change behaviour;
- try to change our culture;
- try to change the world
These are activities where we have some degree of control; we are the initiator. But when changes are imposed on us, our reaction tends to be more dramatic with resistance, anxiety and hostility.
How can we mitigate this reaction so that we can move forward?
- When we feel that fear and anger, it’s good to acknowledge that it’s just my primitive brain (amygdala) reacting – give it a name – a ‘brain glitch” perhaps.
- Decide to move your thinking into a more logical place and put it into a new context or vision that inspires you.
- Activate a new behaviour that moves toward your vision. We know that new behaviours create new brain circuits. This is taking charge of your brain.
- Repeat these behaviours and celebrate that you are in control of your brain.
- Notice as time goes on that your anxiety and resistance has disappeared, or at least is much reduced.
- Know that change in this life is constant and think of ways to look to a future that is all about change.
Mindset Monday Challenge
Reflect on this very profound quote recently presented by my friend +Susan Ferreira of Wisdom To Wealth Mastery
“When the winds of change blow, some people build walls, others build windmills.” Which will you choose?